Meeting a prospective husband

I think everybody has communication apprehension in life and it should be accepted as normal though it is difficult to deal with it that way. There had happened a couple of communication apprehension in my life too. But the one that is impregnated in my memory the most is my first encounter with prospective husband. In my society, most marriages if not all are arranged by parents at the consent of bride and groom. Though things did not work out well and that encounter did not shape into long term relationship. I think that was really a very awkward situation for me and him as well but his case may be different as I believe he is man. I was going through this feeling of apprehension the moment I heard about the news and the meeting. My parents and his parents decided the date of meeting considering our availability and convenience. This whole procedure was going to undertaken my relative’s house and that created different kind of thoughts and feeling inside me. I was going through how my relative member will be reacting about this encounter and what my reaction would be during all this process. Finally the day of encounter became reality and I was sitting with this gentleman who could be my husband and his brother. I was going through several modes of anxiety and nervousness though my relatives made things little easier by starting the introduction session. I am sure both of us were not very sure about the questions to ask and things to say. Most of the time my uncle and aunti dominated the conversation and lead to different topics that could explore our interest and expectations. I knew within myself that this is important for me because I may end up whole life with this man and therefore I need to know the stuffs I think pertinent to our life. But as we were accompanied by other members in house, I dare not to say important things and kept the conversation surface. We were asked if we wish to have separate conversation just by ourselves. I do not know why but both of us decline the idea and finally the meeting with prospective husband ended with further communication.

Now at this point of life I am married to the person I loved and living happily, I would say I can suggest something important to improve this situation. First of all, one should do some background check. I did not know that person already had lot of information about me from other source while for me he was complete stranger. I think if I had some preliminary information about him had helped me feel better understanding and comfortable throughout the process I was trying to get information though I could not. Secondly, one should be clear and prepared for the situation. This could be true to a guy as well because sometimes I hear similar response from the guys as well. I was not very clear and prepared about the situation.