conflict

Conflict is inevitable in everyday life. One can confront conflict on a very small issue such as watching which TV program among the family members to big issues such as deciding the best candidate for the job position among decision makers. Therefore, to be able to live without conflict is impossible in present day’s social life. One can imagine of conflict free living in era or small group managed by dictator. But to date, hardly such social settings are possible as more and more people have access to information that breed the thought process resulting in conflict. Here point is not that conflict is bad, point is how to handle the conflict. There is always a conflict between me and my husband over the half of the things we have to decide. It always took some amount of time for us to decide with anything before it goes smoothly. The best thing about our conflict so far is that it is under control and can be resolve with discussion. Besides, the conflict with my husband, I had some big conflicts in my life. One of my big conflicts was with my Aunty about my cousin marrying a guy from different county. In 2003, when my cousin decided to marry a guy she was dating for three years. My aunty was not approving her decision to marry him because he was not from Nepal. In fact he was Indian and my cousin met him while studying in India and determined to marry him. I was trying to convince my aunty about him and his good human being. I was giving the examples of other such couple who were living happily despite of difference in culture and tradition. She was not ready to buy my points and we drop the matter there for some time.

Despite my aunty’ objection, my cousin married that guy and living in India after marriage.

I was in the middle of my cousin and aunty for about two year after that. Both my cousin and aunty loved each other since they were in conflict with each other due to marriage. They were not communicating with each other directly and therefore, I was the sources of information for both of them. During this time, I had to provide the information of cousin to aunty and vice verse. I did not mind doing that but I did not enjoyed it very much either because there were times when I had to filter the information from each other for their welfare. My aunty who was hurt because of her beloved daughter against her wish action, thought of me as not telling everything or hiding some information. It was really difficult to make her understand about my noble cause behind it. During these years, I was trying softly to change her opinion about the Indian guy and finally I succeed after two year when my cousin had a baby daughter. During that period, I kept providing her good feedbacks about my cousin.

Still, I cannot think of any other better resolution for conflict between me and my aunty due to her daughter. Because I think what I did was the only best thing that can be done in such situation.